48 Conversation Starters For Married Couples

These conversation starters for married couples can be the perfect change of pace for a nice evening in! One thing I’ve learned in our last few years of marriage is that you have to be intentional in planning time together with your spouse. Life gets busy and if it’s not made a priority it simply won’t happen.

If you’ve got young kiddos like we do, or are simply in a busy phase of life I’m certain you can relate to there never being enough hours in the day. As wives, I think we’re often under the impression that planned time together with our husband means a scheduled out-and-about date night. Although a special night out is always enjoyable, I’ve also learned that alone time at home can be just as nice and even more relaxing.

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48 Conversation Starters For Married Couples

If you’re ready for a relaxing evening in and some out of the ordinary conversation with your spouse, please check out these 50 conversation starters for married couples. Cozy up in front of the fireplace or enjoy a special dessert together after dinner and ask away! (And don’t forget to download the printable pdf version below.)

Fun Conversation Starters For Couples

These questions are a bit more light hearted and may even bring about some smiles and laughter, or possibly encourage an impromptu pillow fight 😉 .

• What is a favorite family tradition you had growing up?
• What is one of your craziest dreams?
• What is one of your most impressionable childhood memories?
• How would you describe your perfect day?
• If you could legally own any animal as a pet what would it be?
• When was the last time you laughed until you cried?
• What was a favorite hobby of yours growing up that you don’t do anymore?
• If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life what would it be?
• What is something that you miss from your childhood?
• If you had 24 hours to do anything at all what would you do?
• If you could travel anywhere in the world, but had to stay there for a year where would you go?
• What’s the funniest thing that happened to you this week?
• When was the last time you had a pillow fight?
• If you could have any talent what would you choose?
• Nerf gun or water gun fight?
• What is your all-time favorite movie?
• Name 3 odd/little known facts about yourself
• Would you rather go forever without ice cream or pizza?

Romantic Questions For Married Couples

The romantic questions below focus on your marriage relationship, individual needs, and will hopefully even shed some light as to how you can be more of an encouragement to your spouse.

• At what point did you first realize that you were in love with your spouse?
• What is one of your favorite memories of your time dating?
• What do you find most attractive about your spouse?
• What do you think your spouse’s primary love language is?
• What do you love most about your spouse’s personality?
• What is an area that your spouse could be of encouragement/ help keep you accountable in?
• What is something you would like to begin doing together as a couple?
• What is the most enjoyable part of being married?
• What is your favorite thing to do together as a couple?
• What is your favorite memory from your wedding day?
• What is a good way to make your spouse smile?
• If you could recreate any date that you’ve gone on which one would you choose?
• If you could relive an entire month of your marriage when would you choose?
• What is your ideal amount of physical intimacy each month?
• What do you most need from your spouse?
• What do you like best about being a husband/wife?
• Would you rather receive a love letter or homemade sweet treat?
• What was going through your mind the moment you first met your spouse?
• What is a quirky trait that you find attractive about your spouse?
• What is one of your favorite outfits that your spouse wears?
• If you could rewrite your wedding vows for this very moment what would you say?

Deep Conversation Starters For Couples

With the busyness and distractions life throws our way we don’t often take the time to really think about the weightier matters of life. But they are some of the absolute most important questions we can ask ourselves (and each other).

• What is one way that I can better meet your needs?
• Who currently holds the greatest amount of influence over you?
• On the day you die what will be most important to you?
• If you could go back and change anything about your life what would you choose?
• What is one thing you admire about your parents?
• What is one thing you hope to instill within your children?
• If you were given the ability to change one thing about the world what would it be?
• What was your greatest accomplishment over the last year?
• What do you love most about your family?

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What Are Good Topics To Talk About With Your Husband?

Many of us believe that life is made up of all of those notably “big moments”. You know- the vacations, promotions, accomplishments, wedding, birth of your children, their milestones…. And the list goes on.

However, the reality is that life is made up of all of the tiny moments in between.

It’s important to take a step back and realize that the ordinary, repetitive, mundane, and sometimes downright hard days are blessings too. They’re each a gift and an opportunity to grow- in our character, marriage, parenting, etc.

Friend, please don’t ever stop asking questions and getting to know your spouse. If you’re looking for some general ideas to talk about here are some additional marriage topics for discussion:

1. Ask how you can be a better support to your spouse- with the goal being to discover if there are any unmet needs
2. Talk about what each of you are most passionate about
3. Then ask questions on the topic that your spouse is most passionate about. Show them that you genuinely care and have an interest, if for no other reason than because you love them.
4. Discuss your goals for the year
5. Bring up some of your favorite memories
6. Ask several questions about your spouse- and then use what you’ve learned to do a kind gesture for them
7. Talk about your health- what is most important to you and how to go about achieving a healthy lifestyle
8. Discuss places you would like to go someday. Then be frugal, resourceful, start saving, and see what you can make happen.
9. Come up with a list of ideas to do that will make you both laugh/smile when one of you is having a rough day.
10. Each of you share an area that you’re discouraged in. Then make a point to be a strong support system for your spouse.

Free Conversation Starters For Married Couples PDF

Whether you’re looking for intimate conversation starters for couples or fun and light hearted questions I hope that this list is helpful for you! If you’d like to download the pdf card version please click on the image above. You will then have access to a PDF link to print off 48 individual cards. I’d recommend printing them out on sturdy cardstock if possible, but regular printer paper will work as well.  It’s fun to mix the cards up and put them in a bag to draw from!  

Marriage is a tremendous blessing, yet life-long learning process. After ten years of marriage I feel like I know my husband pretty well, but there will always be so much more to learn. When we ask questions and have a genuine desire to come along side of our spouse and truly “do life” together, our marriage will naturally be strengthened in the process.

These 48 conversation starters for married couples will take a while to get through. Please don’t rush through them. Enjoy your discussions, laughs, and your time learning more about your best friend.